Firsts and presents

This year is the first year J and I will spend Christmas together. It is also the first year for me to not spend Christmas in the UK with my family. So it’s a year of firsts, a year where we can forge new traditions which are ours and we can be just the two of us and think about the future and where we want to go.

It is also a year where since we are not spending it with others we are avoiding a lot of present buying. For example this year we’re not buying each other Christmas presents. I have bought gifts for the nieces and nephew but my sisters, parents, in-laws, etc no gifts.

It’s rather wonderful. Not only do we save money but so do others and we also save giving and getting stuff which is nice but not needed and thus fills up either ours or someone elses house.

Don’t get me wrong, I love buying gifts, well chosen, thought out ones, but I like having time to do this. Hence why I enjoy buying birthday presents, they are thankfully a little more spread out throughout the year. But presents for presents sake is something I’m a lot less on board with.

Partly perhaps it’s an age thing, I have most stuff I really need and I don’t have kids so I don’t have people to really get excited about the gift giving bit of Christmas. Partly it’s also that I have been trying a little this year to limit my spending so much, to avoid so much general consumerism and to be a little more environmentally friendly. Still no way near enough I’m sure but every little helps.

I’m sure this will change so this year I shall enjoy a Christmas focused on spending time with my loved one, contacting other loved ones round the world and stuffing myself silly.



  1. onesoul

    It sounds like it will be lovely. And I’ve been on a minimal Christmas present drive the last couple years. It’s much better, in my opinion. And January is much less painful. 🙂

  2. Cate S

    I feel the same. I would actually ditch Christmas presents altogether, I’d rather take the time (and spend the money) just once a year at birthdays and get something more special. It was lovely this year to give (and receive) far fewer presents (as we too were having a much smaller Christmas) and I didn’t feel any less of the Christmas love. 🙂

  3. Rose

    Happy Christmas! and New Year! Presents is tricky, I really love buying them but the pressure to get something just so can be tough- my family and I have a limit now (we are a small family) and I do buy myself a couple of presents, just £2.99 dvds and a book or two that I know I’d like to read on boxing day etc. The best present is the time to relax and see people I think. I hope you had fun.

    I also agree about consuming generally- I’m trying to buy less- you notice bad quality clothes more quickly when you have less definitely- which is quite good in a way- I won’t be reinvesting in some shops anymore. M&S weirdly has turned out to be a winner!

  4. Metropolitan Mum

    Happy New Year! I hope Christmas was wonderful. Are you still in the UK?
    I love your less presents approach. We have kept it a little down this year, too. But there is definitely room for improvement…

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